The Victim of Life
Commitment vs Trying
In hockey, comparison to one another is huge. The older you grow, the more data is collected from on- and off-ice testing, in-game statistics, player tracking, and advanced analytics.
Imagine growing up and you keep hearing the following:
- Improve your hockey sense, your teammates are all smarter than you.
- You’re so slow; can’t you go faster?
- You are breathing heavily; you should be fitter.
It is frustrating, you start doubting and questioning yourself, why can’t I be smarter, faster, and fitter?
One day, the coaches take you aside and tell you that you have to work on these things to stay on the team. You did everything in your power, but no improvement. There was no understanding from your side and you blamed the coaches.
Different teams, different coaches, different programs. Yet, no improvement. You’ve heard it a million times, you’re not fast, smart, and fit enough.
You are a victim of life.
Deep down, you started to believe that this is simply who you are and nothing will change that.
People compare others and themselves to others. So, every person on this planet creates a world around their beliefs of what a person should be and should not be. However, if for 1 second, you remove everyone’s comparison, judgment, and opinion about you, what are you left with?
Think of a specific task in your life that you just can’t seem to achieve. Now answer these questions:
- What is the reason for your failure?
- What is it that you keep doing that you are failing at?
- What do you feel like when you fail?
Now, take the answers from the questions above, and let’s dig deeper:
- Is this really true what you answered above or is this what others told you?
- If not true, what is your truth?
- If true, what causes you to do / not do this over and over again?
At this very moment, when aiming to succeed this time around:
- What can you do differently?
- What are you believing about yourself?
- What are you really committed to?
Are you 100% committed to this task or is there something else that you are more committed to?
Try not. Do… or do not. There is no try. – Yoda, Stars Wars
By understanding your underlying beliefs and taking control of them, you have the power to change them. When you are not committed, you are not progressing. Everything you do is a commitment. Watching Netflix? Working out? Sleeping? Eating junk food? All commitments. The golden question thus is – what are you more committed to? Netflix or the task that you are trying to achieve?
The irony of commitment is that it’s deeply liberating — in work, in play, in love. – Anne Morriss
Only once you understand your underlying beliefs, the choices of commitment are in your hands and you are no longer the victim of your life.
Commitment builds your confidence and self-trust.
Commitment is taking action and action is what produces results.